This Christmas, mend a quarrel. Seek out a forgotten friend. Dismiss suspicion, and replace it with trust. Write a love letter. Share some treasure. Give a soft answer. Encourage youth. Manifest your loyalty in word and deed. Keep a promise. Find the time. Forgo a grudge. Forgive an enemy. Listen. Apologize if you were wrong. Try to understand. Flout envy. Examine your demands on … [Read more...]
Are We There Yet?
Every parent has heard the familiar plea from a child on a long car ride, “Are we there yet?” Young children don’t have a way to measure time, they have no sense of how long it will take to get to the destination, and sometimes don’t know what the destination looks like or what the family is going to do when they finally get there. No matter how many movies, games, and snacks, the ride keeps … [Read more...]
The Aftermath of Betrayal
Nothing can prepare you for the moment you discover that the person closest to you, the person you count on the most, has betrayed you. If you have experienced betrayal, you need help navigating the emotional devastation that follows. And, even more importantly, you need hope. The Aftermath of Betrayal, is intended to help you identify and articulate the experience you are having. To give you … [Read more...]
Spotlight on Recovery Resources and Inspiration…
SEXUAL HEALTH FOR SENIORS Recently, CRR was asked to come and talk to an ‘over-55’ community about sexual health for seniors. Our Project Coordinator, Jessica Perry, researched and prepared a worksheet of information to share as part of this talk. For this month’s spotlight post, we are featuring some of the information gathered and compiled by Jessica around the topics of safe sex and online … [Read more...]
October Recommended Reading
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Alexandra Katehakis Do not be put off by the words “ignite” and “hot” in the title of this book, as it is not what it may seem at first glance. Rather than a “how-to” sex guide, this is a book about sexuality viewed through the lens of sex as a respectful, healthy and safe attachment through connection and … [Read more...]
Spotlight On Recovery Resources and Inspiration…
Sobriety and Technology Management Stepping into recovery from sex addiction almost always involves a choice to refrain from activity on the internet, whether it is chat rooms, pornography videos, or explicit ads on Craig’s List. The easy access of these sites has facilitated a surge in the problems of addiction as these sexually explicit opportunities abound on the web. One of my early … [Read more...]
Betrayal Blindness: An Adaptive Response To Betrayal Trauma
I had the privilege of guest blogging for the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health’s (SASH) blog post this week. I addressed a topic you may have heard me talk about before – the connection between betrayal blindness and betrayal trauma. To read this blog post click here. … [Read more...]
What To Do With Uncomfortable Feelings
Who wants to feel negative feelings of hurt, anger, pain, and fear? They’re no fun, they make us uncomfortable. To many, it doesn’t make sense to make room for these emotions. “Why waste time with feeling hurt?” “If I just keep focusing on the bright side, it will all work out for the best.” “I’ve got better things to do than feel conflict or distress!" While it may seem to make sense to avoid … [Read more...]
Spotlight on Recovery Resources and Inspiration….
This month I am bringing to the fore an oldie but goodie from the resource bin for those struggling with addiction, as well as partners and family members. Two stalwarts of the AA recovery community, Joe McQuany and Charlie Parmley have been beloved and trusted speakers on the AA circuit throughout the last several decades. Although now deceased, Joe & Charlie talks have permeated the … [Read more...]
August Recommended Reading
Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer Vicki Tidwell Palmer published her book for betrayed partners only a year ago, but already it has become a go-to volume recommended by therapists seeking to help those affected by betrayal. Palmer is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist who also draws from Pia Mellody’s developmental trauma model and places her emphasis for recovery on setting and … [Read more...]