State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Ester Perel “Betrayal hurts but it can also be healed” Ester Perel writes. Perel has traveled the globe learning all she can about the time-honored, universally forbidden but also universally practiced taboo we call infidelity. What does it exactly mean? Why does betrayal hurt so much? Why does betrayal happen even in seemingly happy marriages? Is it … [Read more...]
The Cheater Before Discovery and The Cheater After Discovery: Two Different People
Today’s blog is written not just for you as a betrayed partner, but for your therapists, your pastors, your friends and family members, your 12-Step fellowship group members, and anyone else who is part of your support system as you seek healing. What I want to talk about is the difference between who your cheating partner is before the cheating is discovered and who he is after the cheating is … [Read more...]