Over the coming weeks we want to introduce you to members of CRR’s Clinical Team who you may not yet know. This week we invite you to take a few minutes to get to know a little bit more about Michelle Mays. Michelle D. Mays LPC, CSAT-S is the founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Relational Recovery, serving individuals and couples struggling with sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, … [Read more...]
Spotlight on Recovery Resources and Inspiration…
I’ve recently discovered a great podcast called Thanks for Sharing. Dubbing their program as “the place for all things recovery, healing, and relationships,” the podcast Thanks for Sharing is hosted by Jonathan Taylor and Jackie Pack. Their style is warm and conversational as they interview guests or discuss their own issue of the day. Both Jonathan and Jackie are therapists - licensed clinical … [Read more...]
Betrayal Blindness
As someone who has experienced betrayal, I am guessing that somewhere along the way someone used the word “denial” with you. Maybe you were told you that you were in denial, or that you needed to get out of denial. And in reality, denial can be a very dangerous place to be, or to stay long term. However, I believe that a better way to think about the issue of denial is to look at it through the … [Read more...]
This Christmas
This Christmas, mend a quarrel. Seek out a forgotten friend. Dismiss suspicion, and replace it with trust. Write a love letter. Share some treasure. Give a soft answer. Encourage youth. Manifest your loyalty in word and deed. Keep a promise. Find the time. Forgo a grudge. Forgive an enemy. Listen. Apologize if you were wrong. Try to understand. Flout envy. Examine your demands on … [Read more...]
Are We There Yet?
Every parent has heard the familiar plea from a child on a long car ride, “Are we there yet?” Young children don’t have a way to measure time, they have no sense of how long it will take to get to the destination, and sometimes don’t know what the destination looks like or what the family is going to do when they finally get there. No matter how many movies, games, and snacks, the ride keeps … [Read more...]
The Aftermath of Betrayal
Nothing can prepare you for the moment you discover that the person closest to you, the person you count on the most, has betrayed you. If you have experienced betrayal, you need help navigating the emotional devastation that follows. And, even more importantly, you need hope. The Aftermath of Betrayal, is intended to help you identify and articulate the experience you are having. To give you … [Read more...]
Spotlight on Recovery Resources and Inspiration…
SEXUAL HEALTH FOR SENIORS Recently, CRR was asked to come and talk to an ‘over-55’ community about sexual health for seniors. Our Project Coordinator, Jessica Perry, researched and prepared a worksheet of information to share as part of this talk. For this month’s spotlight post, we are featuring some of the information gathered and compiled by Jessica around the topics of safe sex and online … [Read more...]
October Recommended Reading
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Alexandra Katehakis Do not be put off by the words “ignite” and “hot” in the title of this book, as it is not what it may seem at first glance. Rather than a “how-to” sex guide, this is a book about sexuality viewed through the lens of sex as a respectful, healthy and safe attachment through connection and … [Read more...]
Spotlight On Recovery Resources and Inspiration…
Sobriety and Technology Management Stepping into recovery from sex addiction almost always involves a choice to refrain from activity on the internet, whether it is chat rooms, pornography videos, or explicit ads on Craig’s List. The easy access of these sites has facilitated a surge in the problems of addiction as these sexually explicit opportunities abound on the web. One of my early … [Read more...]
Betrayal Blindness: An Adaptive Response To Betrayal Trauma
I had the privilege of guest blogging for the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health’s (SASH) blog post this week. I addressed a topic you may have heard me talk about before – the connection between betrayal blindness and betrayal trauma. To read this blog post click here. … [Read more...]